Monthly Archives: January 2011

>Psychology and genetics

>Wondering if psychological conditions are genetic…

M’s mom had a diagnosis of Borderline Personality Disorder, as well as a Bipolar Disorder and a history of drug use. She also had a history of cutting, or self mutilation.

National Institute of Mental Health defines it as:
Borderline personality disorder (BPD) is a serious mental illness characterized by pervasive instability in moods, interpersonal relationships, self-image, and behavior. This instability often disrupts family and work life, long-term planning, and the individual’s sense of self-identity. Originally thought to be at the “borderline” of psychosis, people with BPD suffer from a disorder of emotion regulation.

Symptoms

While a person with depression or bipolar disorder typically endures the same mood for weeks, a person with BPD may experience intense bouts of anger, depression, and anxiety that may last only hours, or at most a day. These may be associated with episodes of impulsive aggression, self-injury, and drug or alcohol abuse. Distortions in cognition and sense of self can lead to frequent changes in long-term goals, career plans, jobs, friendships, gender identity, and values. Sometimes people with BPD view themselves as fundamentally bad, or unworthy. They may feel unfairly misunderstood or mistreated, bored, empty, and have little idea who they are. Such symptoms are most acute when people with BPD feel isolated and lacking in social support, and may result in frantic efforts to avoid being alone.

People with BPD often have highly unstable patterns of social relationships. While they can develop intense but stormy attachments, their attitudes towards family, friends, and loved ones may suddenly shift from idealization (great admiration and love) to devaluation (intense anger and dislike). Thus, they may form an immediate attachment and idealize the other person, but when a slight separation or conflict occurs, they switch unexpectedly to the other extreme and angrily accuse the other person of not caring for them at all. Even with family members, individuals with BPD are highly sensitive to rejection, reacting with anger and distress to such mild separations as a vacation, a business trip, or a sudden change in plans. These fears of abandonment seem to be related to difficulties feeling emotionally connected to important persons when they are physically absent, leaving the individual with BPD feeling lost and perhaps worthless. Suicide threats and attempts may occur along with anger at perceived abandonment and disappointments.

People with BPD exhibit other impulsive behaviors, such as excessive spending, binge eating and risky sex. BPD often occurs together with other psychiatric problems, particularly bipolar disorder, depression, anxiety disorders, substance abuse, and other personality disorders.

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Sounds like someone I know and love. I call him my son.

>A T Moment

>T asked the paraprofessional in his classroom what a douche bag is. 🙂 She explained that it was something similar to a dork or geek. His response was, “thank you, I have been calling my brother that for a while, and needed to know what it was.” Tweet #fighting4answrs Continue Reading

>a WOW moment

>Met a new psychiatrist for M today. She asked half a dozen questions, then said…“He has this disorder, this disorder and this disorder. “ Then she said, “has he had this test?” no. “This test?” no. “This test?” no. “Then,” she asked, “how come he has to take all these meds.?” So beginning Monday we… Continue Reading

>Respite Care

>We talked to the doc at length today and he talked about respite care. We were denied respite care last fall because we haven’t spent enough medicaid dollars. In order to qualify we have to spend more than 15,000 dollars in medicaid dollars. Since we are trying to keep M at home as much as… Continue Reading

>theft from the dr.

>M got caught three separate times trying to steal toys from his psychiatrist. Psychiatrist told him that if he didn’t stop eventually he would get put in a jail. And that he could get sent there as early as age 11. He also spoke at length about M’s meds, his behaviors, and anti-social personality disorder.… Continue Reading

>Theft

>M got caught stealing from the substitute teacher a couple of times today. He said he wasn’t taking things from her, he was taking them from the teacher. I don’t have a complete list, but it was enough that this kind woman told me about it without letting it go. Tweet #fighting4answrs Continue Reading

>being difficult.

>So I was away at a basketball game for one of the girls. M was home with his sister, and brother’s and mom. He managed to get into trouble by stealing a laptop from me, playing with my fax machine, borrowing a book from school, and stealing pens from his mother. He is not allowed… Continue Reading


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