Monthly Archives: July 2012

a day of frustrations. started at 4am

we have been really struggling  today.  David stole two cell phones, two keys and a DSI from his family last night.  Between the hours of 3 am and 4am.  How do I know?  Because that is when I was asleep.  the keys are for locks in the house that we use to keep him out… Continue Reading

Health concerns – a new slant – Lupus and Fibromyalgia

So, having a child with serious mental health blessings can and does cause a lot of stress.  How does one handle the stress? Now, add to that idea, major health issues in one parent that react very negatively to stress. I have Systemic Lupus and Fibromyalgia. I have other health concerns, but those are the… Continue Reading

Do special needs kids enrich parents’ lives?

No one who doesn’t have a child with special needs can possibly understand what parents who do are going through. But we often—after thanking our lucky stars that our children are okay–try to imagine how difficult caring for a special needs child must be and wonder how we’d handle it. I certainly do. And that’s… Continue Reading

frustrations at home – we need help

We have been struggling for two weeks with behaviors at home.  David is having major issues with listening, with taking his meds as directed, with a lot of things.  To the point where we hospitalized him. At this point, David is content to force himself to vomit his meds up every morning. This throws his… Continue Reading

Looking for Guest Bloggers on Men’s Health

I mange a popular men’s health blog, Talking About Men’s Health ( and am looking for guest bloggers. You’ll be in good company: Sam Feuss has done a series of interviews for us and Barry Birkett has contributed several great pieces. My definition of “men’s health” is pretty broad, and includes lifestyle, fitness, nutrition, policy,… Continue Reading

Mr Fingers

We purchased new phones this last weekend. Mr Fingers has managed to take cell phones from two members of the family. We try to ensure that the owner of the phone knows that it isn’t their fault that David (Mr Fingers) took their phone. It happens, nothing we have tried will prevent it. Tweet #fighting4answrs Continue Reading

Book concept

Working on book development. Topic is: Securing your home from within Why?  Sometimes when you have a special needs child, the parent needs to lock down part or all of the house to prevent the child from hurting themselves or others. Tweet #fighting4answrs Continue Reading

Off to college

Participating in orientation for our eldest daughters college enrolment. Information overload. Here is a tip: Don’t offer the participants food and drink and then take them into a room where that food and drink isn’t allowed. Also, if you have participants using assistive technology to get around, give them time to get from point A… Continue Reading

life or something like it.

Things have been kind of crazy here at the Casa de Why Not Fathers. As soon as I can process everything that has been going on, I will post about everything. I had a fabulous vacation with my eldest daughter.  Sadly, another three weeks and she  will be off to college and the next adventure… Continue Reading

A new article has been published

We recently authored an article About Parenthood. This is not a political piece.  It is a call for people to think about what parenthood means to them. Related articles Parents are happier people: Parents experience greater happiness and meaning in life than nonparents, psychologists find ( 50 Shades of Parenthood ( Transition into Parenthood… confidence,… Continue Reading