Monthly Archives: May 2014


In life, we all have battles that we fight.  How do we choose which battles to fight?

Do we just fight them all as they come to us?

Or is it better to analyze each situation as it arises?

In David’s life, we have tried to not fight every battle that comes up.  We have tried to be diplomatic in as many of our battles with the system that is designed to either educate him, or treat his mental illnesses.

Through this, there has been one common theme.

How will this battle impact David’s life?  His education?

  1. Long term, will this have an impact?
  2. What will this mean for David’s mental health?
  3. What will this mean for David’s education?
  4. Which of his life goals will this affect?
  5. Am I fighting this battle because I need to win or because it is in the best interest of David?

In the end, we have had times when Number 5 was the question most important.  I can’t fight just to be the winner.  I have to do what is in the best interest of my child.  I don’t have to like it.

Medicaid, Medicaid, Medicaid, you frustrate me so….

David is adopted.  He was a special needs adoption.  Not because of all of the mental health concerns, but because of his race. As part of the adoption, he was court ordered to have access to Medicaid. It seems like every time we turn around, we are fighting for David.  For things that David needs. … Continue Reading

ah… David, David, David….

David is a pretty smart kid.  At least when he wants to be. Let me give you an example. Attachment. Now the average person wouldn’t use that word in their everyday language.  David heard the term once, and immediately it became part of his lexicon.  He used it regularly during the conversation. He doesn’t know… Continue Reading

Something every parent of an adopted child fears

That someone David has never known in his life could decide that he/she wants to be a part of his life. As part of the adoption process all parental rights were terminated.  But to have someone challenge the adoption.  To have the adoption overturned… a fear. Realistic fear? I don’t think so.  But I imagine… Continue Reading

Helping Families in Mental Health Crisis Act – H.R.3717

A letter that I wrote to our Representative in Congress ============== As a parent of a child with severe mental illness, a child who has been in crisis many times, I would like to voice my opinion in regards to this Act and why I would like to recommend that Representative Cramer not co-sponsor the… Continue Reading

something new and different

today, in the mail, we received an envelope from David. Some pictures and stuff that he had drawn.  It was pretty exciting to receive anything from him, as that just isn’t something that he does. thanks David, you brightened my day. Tweet #fighting4answrs Continue Reading

Something different about our son.

Today during our weekly call, I learned something “new” from the staff. David is evidently manipulating one of his staff. While this isn’t really new to us, it is new to them. So my question then becomes… if David is so manipulative that a significant portion of his staff notices what he is doing, how… Continue Reading

Why do we view mental illness with negativity?

In the news each day, we see and read about people.  People like Adam Lanza, and others who destroyed the lives of many.  We never hear about the people who have mental illness yet don’t destroy the lives of others. Why?  Sure the state of mental illness, and the treatment of those with mental illness… Continue Reading