Monthly Archives: April 2015

It’s your fault Dad for not helping me be honest

kitchen basketDavid said “It’s your fault dad, for not helping me be honest.”

And he still claims he is innocent, and the mentor is lying.

About what?  Yeah, I guess that would be helpful to know.

When David got home last night from his mentor time, he had a basketball.  Said that the mentor let him buy it with his flex funds.  (Typically, by the end of the month the flex funds are gone.)  At any rate, David said that the ball cost 70 dollars.

So I confirmed all of this with the Mentor Coordinator who followed up with the mentor.

David has mentors two times a week.  Yesterday he was with his mentor at the YMCA.  Toward the end of their time together, David said he was hungry and demanded to go to McDonalds.  The mentor refused.  They had already spent the day’s allotted funds on food.  So David took off running. Out of the building.  The mentor, basketball in hand chased after him.

The ball isn’t ours.  Or the mentor’s.  it belongs to the YMCA.

David, is adamant that every one is lying.  I told him when he decides he can be honest, he would have consequences, and then we would move forward.  So he said he would lie, and tell me that the ball wasn’t his.  Asked what his punishment was.  Grounded.  for the day.

So, he started with a long diatribe about how it was 72 degrees outside, and there would never be another nice day like it again.  Wanted to know what he could do.

I said, there is always your Nintendo DS.  Nope.  he erased all of his data from the DS, then threw the game cartridges in the kitchen garbage.

That is when he said, “It’s your fault dad, for not helping me be honest.”

I am trying.  David, I am really trying.

Shortly after, he wanted to call the Sheriff to talk to them about how everyone was lying.  I told him that was fine, but that we could also have him charged with theft. For stealing the basketball from his mentor.

Another lecture about how I couldn’t do that, because it was against the law.

Oh, and he said he wants to be a Police Officer.

Today happens to be his mom’s birthday.  I talked to her about this all before I said anything to David about it.  I said, “you know, if I say something to him, your birthday isn’t going to be much fun…”

She understands, but also said “he needs to be accountable.”

So, I am trying David, but honesty has to come from within.  I can’t force you to be honest.  It isn’t that easy.

Celebrate the good. Sometimes, he is what I imagine a 13 year old boy is like

Today was by all accounts, a good day. David had a reasonably good day at school.  No refocuses.  No notes about talking back or being disruptive (more than usual) in class. So I count today as a success. I told him so. He says all he ever hears is what he isn’t supposed to do. … Continue Reading

Brown, Gray, Martin and others

What do each of these names have in common? Brown. Gray. Martin. Grant. Not only was someone killed.  Rioters proceeded to destroy the very communities that they claimed they wanted to protect.  Why burn down a senior center that was under construction?  What did the seniors in the community do to deserve that? How does… Continue Reading

he is anything, but he is not stupid.

David has a tendency to pretend to not be very smart. Yet, he can manipulate a conversation so that you believe you gave him permission to have the car for a couple of hours.  The conversation could have started with something innocuous, such as, can I take the dog for a walk. I keep telling… Continue Reading

struggling and happy 3 month anniversary

This post isn’t so much about David as it is about me.  See for a long time, David was in a safe place.  A place where I didn’t have to worry as much.  I could get the weekly reports, I could talk to David, I would take the interceding calls, that told me of some… Continue Reading

a quiet celebration

Although most days are not without their small skirmishes, the past couple of days have been really good for David.  Or I should say David has been really good. Sure, he is : Argumentative moody disruptive demanding silent verbose frustrating But he has also been helpful kind thoughtful respectful friendly playful cuddly (with the pets… Continue Reading

the storyteller

David is gifted. Gifted at telling stories, then when caught in a lie, he is gifted at changing the story to suit what ever is going on in his head. When caught in a lie, he will turn and twist the story enough to make the listener doubt what they heard. If this happens, you… Continue Reading

ND House funds new Governor residence while decimating funding for health and human services

So the ND House, has gutted the budget allowing for expanded care for our mentally ill, including kids with Autism. Yet.  It is okay to spend 5 million dollars on a new home for the Governor? something is wrong with this picture. Please, come the next election, let’s hold these people accountable.   Tweet… Continue Reading