Monthly Archives: September 2015

all the lies

4062bfa0a115ca5452472219bd9e04d9According to David, every one is lying.  The nurse staff who documented everything that came out of his mouth to the hospital social worker who made the complaint to CPS to the CPS worker who “asked if I wanted to live with an aunt.”

David claims that he never told them anything about me restraining him on the pavement.  He doesn’t know where that came from.

He also claims that it wasn’t his idea to stay with his aunt.

The sad reality?  Even the nursing staff knows and understands that he tells lies.  How come the hospital social worker and the CPS worker can’t see the same?

We have three social workers directly as members of David’s team, plus a psychiatrist, a psychologist and his education team.  One would think that the people should listen to the person who knows David the best from outside the family.  Our Care Coordinator has been awesome.  I keep apologizing for calling her so much, but she says that she is here to help especially in crisis situations, which this certainly qualifies as.

David doesn’t understand the consequences that come from lying to everyone.  He doesn’t understand the harm he is doing to himself, or the relationships of the people he wants desperately to trust him.

I don’t know what to do.  I don’t know what is going to happen next.  I don’t know what tomorrow will bring.

In the end, I explained to David that there are limited numbers of places that he can go to.  None of the options include staying with an aunt.

Desperation

Got a call this morning from CPS.  Child Protective Services received a report that I restrained David by pushing him to the pavement last Friday evening.  If I pushed him to the pavement, where are the bruises, scrapes and blood?  If I pushed him to the pavement, why did the deputy sheriff not say or… Continue Reading

Placement delayed

Placement has been delayed until at least Monday.  Because of the psychiatrists note, we need hospital records.  since we can’t get those before a deadline that has already passed today, we can’t admit tomorrow. Since we can’t admit tomorrow and the person who does admissions is out the rest of the week, we are looking… Continue Reading

Feelings of Futility

We are pending approval for placement in a psychiatric facility. Placement is dependent on the insurance company approving the need. Certificate of Need is generated by the insurance company.  This allows placement. Certificate of Need is based in part on the last psychiatric appointment that David had with his doctor. So, we finally received the… Continue Reading

American Express warning

So, I received this message from “American Express”.   Now, this would be an appropriate alert, if… I was one to download web pages to my desktop to run them later. I had an American Express Card. So how about some tips?  More and more, we are forced to move toward receiving notifications from companies… Continue Reading

Reciprocity

One of the difficult things about raising a child like our son, David, is that the love that we feel for our son will likely never be reciprocated. It isn’t that he doesn’t bond with people, he just doesn’t bond with family. It is a facet of the attachment disorder. He is more likely to… Continue Reading

Escalating behaviors

Yesterday afternoon about 1:00 pm, I was at David’s school to drop off his medications for next week.  School is 60 miles from home.  While there, the assistant principal pulled me aside to talk to me about David’s escalating behaviors at school.  At the time he was serving in school suspension for behaviors relating to… Continue Reading

An attitude for breakfast?

Full on attitude from David this morning.  He sees his potential placement in a residential facility as a badge of honor. I wish that he could understand how hard he is on the rest of the family.  Especially when he talks about how much he can’t wait to go to residential because they will let… Continue Reading

a timeline tip

One added benefit to blogging about our son and his mental health illnesses, is that it also gives me a timeline of some of his behaviors.  Of course, I don’t document everything here.  But this is a good baseline for everything that he has been through. So, for example, when a facility asks me for… Continue Reading