Category Archives: acceptable practice

North Dakota Mental Health Crisis

I am part of the Mental Health Advocacy Network in North Dakota.  It is a coalition of advocates and agencies that is working to change the way mental health is viewed.  To erase the stigma that comes with being mentally ill.

In this video, it so eerily describes things that mirror what has happened in our family.  It could very easily be David’s mother or myself in the role of parent, and David could easily be Garrett.  These are real people telling their stories.

North Dakota sponsored an interim study of the mental health study and that report was delivered in 2014.  Known as the Schulte Report, it spoke volumes about the crisis in services here.  Little has been done to resolve the crisis.  We continue to see services cut.  We continue to have to fight for care.  Parents continue to struggle to help their children.  People with mental illness are seeing the inside of the jails more frequently.

Where does North Dakota go from here?

A video about the mental health system in ND and one families struggle.

Compliance – Continued Medication Issues

Compliance – Continued Medication Issues We are in week two of David’s not getting his medication as prescribed.  Thus, he is out of compliance, though it appears to be a systems issue.  Today, I contacted the detention unit, asked to speak to the medical person, and was transferred to him. When I asked what the… Continue Reading

A complete lack of communication – Medication Issue

Complete lack of communication – Medication Issue How hard is it?  David has six prescriptions.  Two medications are available over the counter – the others aren’t.  Since the staff at the juvenile detention center where David is currently being housed had an issue with his originally supplied medication, we supplied them with all new prescriptions… Continue Reading

Breaking hearts, practicing tough love with our son

Breaking our hearts to practice tough love with David. He called home for the first time since he was placed in detention.  Full of tears, and a story about how he banished the bad version of himself. Breaking Hearts During the first hearing, he didn’t want to talk to us. During the second, he said… Continue Reading

Fourth and Goal – I feel like we are in the Super Bowl.  I don’t follow football as a rule, so I had to look up the reference for “Fourth and Goal”.  To be clear, I don’t consider this a game.  David’s life, our family’s life is not a game.  We didn’t sign up for… Continue Reading

Against Medical Advice

Against Medical Advice. It’s been two years since this happened. Two years ago he was discharged against medical advice,  David was discharged from the facility in another state because the insurance people who create the Certificate of Need decided that he wasn’t making any progress and needed to go home. This week, he will be… Continue Reading

Destroying Success – please pray that we aren’t

I title this post “Destroying Success” for a simple fact. David has been in facility based care before.  He has been discharged from such a care to home three times out of the 5 placements he has had.  Each time home has resulted in behaviors so volatile that he experiences frequent trips to the mental… Continue Reading

Playing with fire

I feel like we are playing with fire here.  Admittedly, David also likes to play with fire. David admitted to that too.  We had blamed another child for the small fires.  David claims that it was him that did the deed.  We have not had any of the fires during any of the periods when… Continue Reading

Risk Assessment – Hope, Dreams and Fear

What do you do when you need to balance the mental illness of one child against the wellness of a whole family? Do you allow the mentally ill and potentially very violent child to return home? Or do you push for another residential placement? Continue Reading

Fetal Alcohol Spectrum Disorder Eval

David and I are traveling six hours tomorrow to get him evaluated for Fetal Alcohol Spectrum Disorder.  This is a second opinion.  At 15, he likely will not be able to get any services for the diagnosis. But like I have said in the past, I don’t want anyone to say we haven’t tried to… Continue Reading