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National Adoption Month – A thank you

Adoption story – A thank you

All children deserve a forever family regardless of disability.

Readers may remember more than 4 years ago when I wrote about Ronald McDonald and Houdini.  That four post series is still among the more popular posts on this site.

My brother and I are adopted.  Our father, adopted us when I was 3 and my brother was 4.  In doing so, he gave us a chance at a normal life.  A chance.  Life has a strange way of showing you normal.

There are no regrets.  Every time I am in the city where dad lives, I make an effort to get together with him for coffee and conversation.

English: Pictograph/icon for child adoption. Č...
English: Pictograph/icon for child adoption. (Photo credit: Wikipedia)

Each time we are together, about once a month, I thank him for saving us.  For giving us his name. It’s a simple thing really.  He didn’t need to adopt us.  He did.  In the process he gave us his name, a grandmother, an Uncle and a sister – in the end, he gave us what I consider the greatest gift.  He told us the truth about our adoption.  He didn’t sugarcoat anything, he told it like it was.  Our biological father was not a good guy.

Given my health problems it would be nice to know more, but we don’t push.

Last year, I did trace that side of the family and connected with a sister.

Opening our hearts

When we adopted David, we gave him my dad’s first name as his middle name.  In honor of what dad did for me.  To celebrate a legacy of giving of ourselves more than expected when the person we give of ourselves to is not able to help themselves.  In truth, we had rough lives growing up, but I fear they would have been much, much harder if he hadn’t given us his love like he did.  There are no regrets in me for adopting David.  He is my son.

People often ask, “are all adopted kids like him?”

My answer?  “No.  No they are not.”

And then I add, “All children deserve a forever family regardless of disability.”

We wanted to continue a legacy of giving of oneself so that another might have a forever family.

Thank you

For Dad.  Thank you will never be enough.

For Mom.  Thank you for loving us so much that you let Dad adopt us.  You of all people could have said no.

For Houdini.  The one decent thing that I know of that you did in your 81+ years of life.  You let us go.  I am grateful for that.

Most Excellent

Today was a most excellent day.  We had a brief tantrum right before bed, but he had a busy day. We got up.  Had breakfast. Then.  We started in the garage.  Dug out the mower.  So that he could get started mowing.  While he was mowing where I was planning to work on windows today,… Continue Reading

successes of the day September 8

This is a daily log of today’s successes. David was released from the hospital. He got a haircut without complaint. David and I had a fairly positive drive home. He took a shower without soaking down the bathroom. He ate supper without any complaint. After a few trials in the “chair at the center of… Continue Reading

a quiet celebration

Although most days are not without their small skirmishes, the past couple of days have been really good for David.  Or I should say David has been really good. Sure, he is : Argumentative moody disruptive demanding silent verbose frustrating But he has also been helpful kind thoughtful respectful friendly playful cuddly (with the pets… Continue Reading


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