Category Archives: adhd

Off Close Watch

David is off close watch. They moved him off the lower level of the residence, and to the main floor.  This allows them to keep a closer eye on him. I miss the little guy. I advised staff that we need to ensure that we are looking at his meds.  While not a cure, they… Continue Reading

a very real fear this Christmas

Just received the weekly report that encompasses all of the week not just the immediate emergence of chronic cases. Today was another “off” day. David destroyed a bunch of recently created Christmas decorations that his peers had made.  Evidently he was upset. He did a number of other things, including trying to run away.  He… Continue Reading

thoughts for today, tomorrow, the future

My goal is to raise awareness. Please, if you read my blog, share it with others. Our beautiful son is not the only child who is struggling with mental illness. There are others out there. So please, share my blog with others that we might work together to raise awareness. Awareness begins with one voice and builds steam from there. I know quite a few parents who have been fighting for their children for a long time, far longer than we have been fighting for Marc. Voice’s get tired. People get tired. So let’s rally the troops.

Mental illness encompasses a broad range of things. Each mental illness is important.

Thank you again for your support. It means the world to my family. To me. Continue Reading

At a loss, with tears rolling.

Dad’s are supposed to be able to fix things. I can’t fix this. I can’t undo the damage caused by a selfish woman who did not think of her unborn child when she proceeded to get herself loaded up on drugs. Continue Reading

It’s not our fault.

Most of my readers know me from facebook.  I am in a number of groups there, and while I would love to list them all here, it would break some aspects of confidentiality for me to do so. What I see most often in the groups that I am a part of is:  “part of… Continue Reading

update – positive news

Staff called tonight. David was in a good place to talk to me tonight.  When he is manic, it just isn’t a good idea.   David addressed his concerns. Doesn’t want to be there for another 6 months to a year. Thinks that he is being lied to. Doesn’t understand why we aren’t coming out… Continue Reading

My pain today

My pain tonight comes not from my body, road weary and tired of travel.   It doesn’t come from the connective tissue illness with which I have long lived. It comes from saying good bye to David. From leaving him behind in a far off place to be cared for by others. My heart knows… Continue Reading

Conversations with David

David called today.  wanting to know what he could do to complete his treatment. So I began explaining it to him. He needs to work his treatment plan.  He needs to be safe. He needs to eat what he is fed and not refuse meals. The thing to remember with David, is that he remembers… Continue Reading

the good stuff

Dear readers, as many of you know through the writings here, David has been in residential placement.  He is on his third major placement and like 10th or 11th minor placement.  Major is facilities where he has stayed for more than 30 days, and minor are all of the others. This past week was a… Continue Reading

A response to events in Ferguson – a teachable moment

My son is African-American.  I could care less.  All I care about is that he is my son. That said, how would I feel if he was shot and killed?  Of course, I would be heartbroken. So how do I talk to him about the events in Ferguson, Mo?  Or do I?  He is affected… Continue Reading


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