Today, I am traveling out to see David. So excited to see the little man. It has been a month since we placed him out there.Tweet #fighting4answrs
So it seems like the residence where David is has this belief that after 1 year his issues should go away.
If only mental illness worked that way.
You know how it is.. on day 364, mental illness is still raging. on day 365, it is magically gone.
yeah, that’s the ticket.
Got an email from our staff today. They don’t know from hour to hour what David’s mood and behavior are going to be.
Where have they been for the last 14 months? Has David not been in their care? We told them this when we filled out the placement application. Every month at our staffing we told them.
When he becomes Manic, we tell them you need to update his meds. You need to change his meds. If he is displaying
manic behaviors, his meds aren’t working. Every MONTH.
David was born addicted to a lot of drugs. As a result his body metabolizes them quickly and the medications lost their effectiveness over time. We told them this when David moved in. We have told them this every month or two since David moved in. It still seems like they don’t understand.
Christmas is coming. It is our sincere hope that David stay in his current placement through Christmas.
Oh, one other thing the email mentioned. David seems to have some anxiety.
Gee, I wonder why? He is afraid no one wants him and he doesn’t want to move. Hello!
I close with this thought.
If the current placement can’t handle him with a full complement of staff, what makes them think it is remotely safe for us to bring him home for a couple of days before we take him to the new facility? How is that a good idea?
I can’t turn my home into a psychiatric facility for a couple of days. I can’t bring a bunch of strangers into my home for a couple of days to support David.
Well outside of the financial aspects of such a proposition, I can’t do that to our other kids. How would that be fair to them?
When you have a child with severe mental illness, you have to juggle their needs, with the needs of the family.
Are their needs any less important?
Are David’s needs less important?
So we juggle. It is a fact of life. Will David ever return home?
I would love it. It is ok to have dreams.
- A letter to my son. David. (whynotfathers.com)
- PRTF Level Care (whynotfathers.com)
- SPEAKING OUT ON MENTAL ILLNESS – Sticky Issues (janesaysrise.com)
- If you don’t think you know someone with a serious mental illness, you’re wrong. (me2orchestra.org)
- If physical diseases were treated like mental illness (robynlgiles.wordpress.com)
- A Ministry for the Mentally Ill (kimfamilyfighting.wordpress.com)
Today, we had a staffing for David. These occur monthly. Participants include social workers, therapists, and parents.
By all accounts, he is doing well. For the most part he is stable. Residence staff reported that since the seizure on Friday, David has been rather subdued. He seems to be nervous or upset about what happened. He doesn’t spend a lot of time talking about it.
Medical reported that David’s seizure wasn’t caused directly by the Wellbutrin. Wellbutrin simply lowered his threshold so that an underlying condition is more prominent.
That said, David will be scheduled for testing to see what level of seizures he has been having.
In hindsight, he has exhibited some aspects of seizures. There are times in the past where teachers have noticed that David has “vacated” or gotten a look in his eye. Could this have been an ongoing sign of seizure activity? We don’t know. There is so much that we don’t know.
On the other side, I talked about staff making contact with our whole list of emergency contacts, until they actually talk to a real person, rather than voicemail. This should ensure that we get more timely notification of David needing a trip to the ER via ambulance.
We also discussed David’s pending placement at the ranch in Montana. We asked how the ranch was able to approve a bed for David, or accept him to their facility when no application for services has been made by his parents. They didn’t have an answer. I asked then, if David would be able to maintain current residence until something else comes up.
The response was yes, he will have placement until something else becomes available.
All in all, no news to report. We are pretty much on hold at present. As we learn more about David’s seizures, I will share that with our readers.