Category Archives: Reactive Attachment Disorder

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community engagement – Thank you Optimists

Today, I had the opportunity to speak to a group of optimists.  The Optimist Club of Bismarck kindly accepted my request to speak to their group.  It went well for my first engagement as a speaker. I spoke about our Family Voices of North Dakota organization.  I answered questions regarding special health care needs and… Continue Reading

According to David…

We had the monthly staffing for David today at the residential facility. Evidently there are some things about our family that I didn’t know. We have three or four horses. We have a maid/servant that sees to our needs. Does laundry, cooks and cleans the house. I sleep in David’s bedroom not to keep track… Continue Reading

those special phone calls

Just got off the phone with David. I love it when he calls.  He sounds so, so loveable. I don’t know any other word to describe it.  It makes my heart soar to hear his voice. I confess, I miss him. I don’t miss his behaviors though. Tweet #fighting4answrs Continue Reading

2 weeks and counting

It has been two weeks since David entered placement. In  the intervening time period, we have had an IEP, we have received his first treatment plan.  We have learned that David is pushing limits already. He has stolen something every single day that he has been a resident.  Either from the school that is on-site,… Continue Reading

Reactive Attachment Disorders

I created a facebook group for parents of children with Reactive Attachment Disorder. If you, or someone you know fits this description, please share this link with them. https://www.facebook.com/groups/ReactiveAttachementDisorders/ It is a closed group, only members can read the posts to it. Tweet #fighting4answrs Continue Reading

David has a treatment plan

We received a copy of David’s treatment plan today. Work on not stealing. Work on aggressive response. Safety plan – If David has a behavior that is aggressive, this is how they will respond to it.  In order. Regroup Grounding Time Out Physical Escort Physical Transport NCI (Non-Crisis Intervention) Seclusion Hospitalization Legal Action as necessary… Continue Reading

a brand new IEP for the year

We are blessed. We are blessed to have an incredible team of caring people working for David’s behalf. Today we had an IEP team meeting and talked about strengths and weaknesses.  David has many of each.  In future posts I will talk about many of them.  Today though, let us talk about the team. Caring… Continue Reading

In Sickness and in Health

When my bride and I got married, that was a part of our vows.  As I am sure it was for most of our readers. It seems to me that when we have children there is an implied vow “in sickness and in health”. I don’t know of any parent who wouldn’t gladly switch places… Continue Reading

what is this? an mp3 player?

Received a phone call tonight from the residential facility where David is. Seems he had an mp3 player.  The staff was pretty sure that it belonged to the cottage, but David can tell a pretty convincing lie. David evidently told the staff that we had given it to him. Nope! So they called and asked.… Continue Reading

remember the little things…

Now I could wax poetic about remembering the little things… But. With David gone, we remember the little idiosyncrasies that make him who he is.  So I have to send a message to staff every time I remember something.  How long before they get tired of hearing from me? Today, we discovered David is on… Continue Reading


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