Category Archives: Parenting Journey

House in emotional disarray

4062bfa0a115ca5452472219bd9e04d9Our house is taking an emotional hit today.

His lies.

When he was in the hospital last, he reportedly said that we were beating him.

Child Protective Services comes tomorrow to do followup.

The case worker stated “David reported that he was made to eat soap and his mom was mean to him.”

The issue at hand is simple.  Mom is a teacher.  David has zero clue what is at stake here with his lies and the resulting fall out.

All that we can do is let the social worker into our home, speak candidly and carry on.

The result of the investigation will show that we are doing everything we can to help him. His lies have already shown him to be what he is, and nothing that happens in the next 24 hours will change that.

But the emotional toll is still there.  This hit against our ability to parent our child is real.

I don’t understand how he can do the things that he does, and we have no recourse.  He can be emotionally and mentally abusive, and all that we can do is therapy.  We don’t retaliate, because honestly, we stopped spanking him a long time ago.  I could spank him with your hand and it would have no affect on his behavior.

The emotional toll is still there.  Please, a prayer for peace in our family.

when it rains, it pours

Ah, the old cliche.  When it rains, it pours. Did you know that this phrase hearkens back to an advertisement from the Morton Salt company? This evening, when Mom called to let us know that she was on her way home from work, David started acting up. I now know why. See, he stole an… Continue Reading

A letter to a parent in Georgia

I imagine that right now you are feeling a little anxious.  Maybe you aren’t feeling anything at all. I don’t know your situation, but chances are that if you are reading the things that I write, you have some experience with what I write about.  Maybe not at the depths that we are dealing with,… Continue Reading

This Parenting Journey

I did not start out my parenting journey aware of early childhood trauma and the effects of poor attachment. I did not know that babies who experience high levels of stress, especially over a sustained period of time, have brains that do not develop “normally”. I did not know that children who have been through… Continue Reading