Category Archives: Plea for help

Attention Seeking RAD

I tend to forget, and I shouldn’t.

Every action is designed to get attention.

Every behavior is designed to get attention.

I asked him this morning, “what do you gain from this behavior?”

His answer?  “I don’t know”

 

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I wish that he did.  I would much rather award positive behavior, than the negative that we have been seeing.  Still, everything considered he is doing better than before he went to the residential facility.  Of course, are are nearing the end of what is typically the honeymoon period.  His honeymoon typically lasts 6 weeks.

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Last night I was giving him his meds, he had a glass of water.  he acted like it was slipping out of his hand, water sloshing around, above the rim… nearly soaked my laptop.  So I called him on it.  Thus beginning an hour of negative behaviors.  All because I told him to set his water down and take a drink between pills.  This gave me time to move my laptop.

On the way to the kitchen, he “accidentally” poured his water all over the floor.

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I am going to try to ignore his behaviors.  Since he wants attention when he does these things.  It isn’t easy.  David and I spend as much as 10 hours a day together.  5 of which there is no one else around.  My health doesn’t give me a lot of energy to “play”.  I have been gradually letting him go for walks with the dogs.

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One other thing.  When he is called on his behavior he says things like “there is no need for retaliation.”

Or if I tell him to sit down, and then later ask him to do something he says “but you told me I had to sit down…”

Or if I tell him I am calling someone, like the doctor or his care coordinator, he asks if he can pack a bag, because he “knows that he is going to be placed in the hospital.”  If I call, it is because I need to arrange an appointment or something.  In case of the care coordinator, it is because I need to update her on how things are going.

Seems to me that his life is worthy of a Shakespearean tragedy.

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honesty doesnt make us bad parentsIn the end, we love him, he is our son.  Not giving up.  Though he seems to think that we are giving up when we place him in a facility….  ah, life is such a tragedy.

I give him a hug.  I tell him how much he means to us.  That we love him.

Oh my, we are late for his appointment… make everyday a good day.  Hug your loved ones.

 

God, Grant Me Strength

So, evidently, a majority of David’s team at the Psychiatric Residential Treatment Facility (PRTF) thinks that he is ready to come home. Never mind the self-harming and manic episodes from last month.  Never mind the negative behaviours or need for him to have a highly structured environment. So while his Mother and I don’t think… Continue Reading

travels with Carl

It’s me again Margaret.  hehe…   Reminds me of this old Ray Stevens classic.   So anyway.  traveling today, out to see David. We live on the edge of the Bakken oil field.  In order to get to where David is, you have to drive through a portion of the field.  It is mostly Interstate travel. Today… Continue Reading

I didn’t create this video, I am just sharing it here.  Having a child with Autism, I could not imagine what their life would be like if they cou;dn’t speak to us.  Listen and watch one non-verbal child’s amazing story. [youtube_sc url=”http://youtu.be/vNZVV4Ciccg” title=”Autistic%20girl%20speaks%20through%20typing%20on%20laptop.%20″ autohide=”1″] Tweet #fighting4answrs Continue Reading

they requested what?

So today, in the midst of the chaos of trying to figure out what the best path is for my family, I got a call from our state Department of Public Instruction.  (DPI) A couple of days ago, I mentioned on my blog that I was submitting a request for a facilitated IEP to the… Continue Reading

productive or just busy body

Today has been an incredible day.  If it isn’t one thing, it is another. Our new dryer was delivered this morning… Yeah me! Been on the phone with the Department of Public Instruction, Protection and Advocacy and a news program. For our youngest, the school district requested a facilitated IEP.  So I faxed in a… Continue Reading

>A new day

>Starting tomorrow, we will be home-schooling our youngest until which time we can get the public school in our district to accept him and his disabilities. Anyone know anybody associated with the ACLU? How about the NAACP? The reason I ask, is because my son’s civil rights have been violated. He is diagnosed with a… Continue Reading


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