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End of Year Update

End of year update. – Things are still moving forward here.

There are quite a few things that I won’t write about that have happened, but here is an update.

In early December we asked to be referred to the Developmental Disabilities (DD) division.  In the midst of that, we spent a lot of time faxing back and forth different releases to ensure we had all of David’s most recent testing from Psychologists and Psychiatrists.  We met with some resistance, but in the end, we met with a DD eligibility worker.

Shortly before Christmas, we met with her again and formally applied for services.

Forty-eight hours later, he was approved for Case Management and a statewide referral was sent out for care, either group home or what.  A DD Program Manager was assigned.

In the middle of all of this, my health has taken a beating.  With the support of my doctor’s, I am on the mend, but am under strict orders to minimize stress.  Sadly, this means that we limit the amount of time with David.

Currently he is scheduled to be discharged on Jan 13, 2017.  Very little discharge planning beyond “he has to be sent home.”

I am not certain what will happen with DD services in our state’s current budget situation, but, hopefully, we can get supports.  I can not recreate the structure of the facility that he is in, when he comes home.  It’s just not possible.

At any rate, that’s all for now.

David claims that he wants to come home.  Past experience tells me that he just wants out of the facility.

Please, if you are of the mind to, pray for David.  Positive thoughts will work as well.

We have been hit with a number of winter storms, so in addition to my health, that has been a limiting factor in having David home.  We are following the road recommended by doctors.  It isn’t safe to bring David home.


When he was home for Christmas, we had trouble with our home phone.

After we took David back to the facility on Christmas Eve, I had to go to the ER.  Some nitro, an EKG and chest x-ray later, they sent me home.

The next day, I discovered that the telephone was unplugged from the telephone jack.  In order to get to the jack, you had to move a piece of furniture.  No, the cats couldn’t have done it.  They don’t have thumbs.

Let’s hope that the DD system will better be able to help David be successful, stable and eventually as independent as his disability will allow him to be.

Anxiety high, as we near discharge for David

Anxiety In a little more than a month, David will return from his fifth placement in six years.  As a result, we are on edge.  Anxiety in people who are already in a heightened state of upset is not good.  We are told that things will be different this time. By the admissions of the… Continue Reading

National Adoption Month – A thank you

Adoption story – A thank you Readers may remember more than 4 years ago when I wrote about Ronald McDonald and Houdini.  That four post series is still among the more popular posts on this site. My brother and I are adopted.  Our father, adopted us when I was 3 and my brother was 4. … Continue Reading

SMI and the Tragedy of Adulthood

SMI – Serious Mental Illness The National Survey on Drug Use and Health  (NSDUH), which defines SMI (Serious Mental Illness) as: A mental, behavioral, or emotional disorder (excluding developmental and substance use disorders); Diagnosable currently or within the past year; Of sufficient duration to meet diagnostic criteria specified within the 4th edition of the Diagnostic… Continue Reading

Ever Vigilant, Hyper-Vigilant

Vigilant. Hyper-Vigilant. We had an overnight pass with David over the weekend. While things went well, there were near constant redirects.  There wasn’t anything that can lay a finger on as saying this is a huge issue.  It was just little stuff. Rather than bringing him home, with the risk that such a trip entails,… Continue Reading

On Autism and Disability – a youtube video

The thing to take from this video? Never give up hope. With David, we will always hope that there will be a time when he can be a part of society. I didn’t make this video.  All copyright and trademarks are held by their respective owners and I make no claim as to ownership. Tweet… Continue Reading

For those Dad’s who played a role in my life

    When we adopted our youngest, we did an adoption study. We had to write a bio and answer a ton of questions. Growing up, I had step-dad’s. My brother and I were adopted. Bio-Dad was in prison. Mom doesn’t acknowledge that period of her life. For those Dad’s who played a role in… Continue Reading

Taking a Chance on Faith

Taking a Chance on Faith

With a lot of prayer, we are going to try a visit away from the safety and comfort that being in close proximity to the facility provides us.  This is about taking a chance. We are going to take a chance on faith that he is stable.  This weekend, we are going to travel to… Continue Reading

the cynic in me

Cynic. A person who believes that only selfishness motivates human actions and who disbelieves in or minimizes selfless acts or disinterested points of view. Cynicism. The attitude or beliefs of a cynic. I spoke briefly with David’s doctor today.  Seems David is doing very well.  As well as anyone has ever seen him behave. Which… Continue Reading

the value in flaws of the mind

I talk regularly about David’s mental health.  Flaws isn’t a good word for the way he is, or why he is the way he is. Even though most days I am flummoxed by what to do with his behaviors, his mind has value. Every mind has value.  Why? With David, it is the simple things. … Continue Reading