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Risk Assessment – Hope, Dreams and Fear


We had David’s monthly staffing today.  It is always our strongest hope that he will do well each month that he is there.

He is doing well, but then he always does well in facility based care.  He gets the things that he wants, he has staff around him all the time to support him.  He has access to mini-bikes, horses, a pool with a water slide, new clothes and shoes whenever he wants them.  All things we don’t have access to at home.  Except clothes. We can do clothes.  Just not the name brand stuff he prefers.  Nike, Adidas and others.


My readers may remember last summer and the struggles we went through with David.  To ensure the safety of the whole family, including David.  The incident when he tried to crash our van, to where he threatened to kill me with a piece of wood, to where he tried to hit me with a shovel.  We were told that we weren’t doing enough, so we ramped up services for him.  In home therapy once a week, increased mentor hours and a lot of mileage to take him to appointments and therapies. Our fear is having to relive those events in any way.

Today they said that he should be home before winter.

Where does that leave the family?  I have two other kids at home yet that I am concerned about.  Plus my bride and I.  There is more at risk here than what these people understand.

Sure he is doing well.  now.  he always does.

An enlargeable map of the 53 counties of the s...
An enlargeable map of the 53 counties of the state of North Dakota (Photo credit: Wikipedia)

With the budget cuts in the state of North Dakota, mentor hours have been cut, not sure yet about in home therapy.  The staffing that he needs isn’t available where we live, or any where else for that matter.

Do I want him to come home?  Honestly?  Yes.  and.  No.  Yes, because he is my son.  No because it is dangerous.


Earlier this week we had an evaluation done by a renowned specialist in Fetal Alcohol Spectrum Disorder.  We hope to have the results of his analysis next week.  He did say that David needs long term support.  That we need to think 10 years ahead.  So our dreams revolve around what happens.  In three short years David will be an adult.  What happens then?

10 Years from now, I would like him to be living independently with supports.  I would like to see him working a job.


My fear is that one day David will be out, and do something that requires interaction with law enforcement.  They won’t understand what they are dealing with, because they won’t KNOW what they are dealing with.  And he will be killed.

Risk Assessment

I have to approach this like a risk assessment.  Balance the pros and cons.  Sure he deserves the chance to try, but doesn’t the rest of the family deserve the continued freedom from a constant threat of violence and fear?

Mr School Van Driver

Good morning my friends.  Hope this note finds you well. Yesterday was an excellent day. This morning, David was in full on mode.  Jumping from topic to topic so quickly that we couldn’t keep up.  In the course of 30 minutes, I bet he talked about 50 different things.  When he is like this there… Continue Reading

news of the day. June 11, 2015

David is being really good today.  Following me like my shadow. I appreciate that he is trying.  As I survey my garage, I am discovering just what all has been lost because of David’s actions. Weedeater. Networking tools for installing data networks. Gasoline Screws by the box. It isn’t much, and I am sure that… Continue Reading

So Far, So Good, Now …

It is too early to tell if all of my worry from the last two weeks was for not. However, so far so good.  It is an adjustment for sure, but no less an adjustment for him as the rest of the family. I am used to having the house to myself all day long,… Continue Reading

I now pronounce sentence. 72 hours and a prayer

The appeal to Medicaid to further fund services has been denied. As a result, I will be picking up David from the facility on Monday.  We then come home to begin a new chapter in our lives as a family. We had an IEP meeting for him this morning. Short term he will be homebound… Continue Reading

Encouragement from me to you

Living a life filled with fear does things to the body.  I have a number of chronic health issues, and the stress from this is exacerbating those health issues. Please, if you are reading this then you have either an interest in the topic, or are experiencing it yourself. Remember these key things. It’s not… Continue Reading

Annual Christmas Letter and Appeal

Greetings friends and readers. It is with all the joy in my heart that I wish each of you a joyful holiday.  One filled with acceptance of the differences we see in others.  One where our children know how much love we feel in our hearts for them. It is tradition in our home to… Continue Reading