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Annual Christmas Letter and Appeal

Merry Christmas everyone!Greetings friends and readers.

It is with all the joy in my heart that I wish each of you a joyful holiday.  One filled with acceptance of the differences we see in others.  One where our children know how much love we feel in our hearts for them.

It is tradition in our home to open gifts Christmas Eve at home, and then on Christmas Day with the cousins and Santa.  Tonight, I reflected on Christmas’s past.

I remember a Christmas when we got K one of those play kitchens.  It took me most of the night to put the thing together, but the joy on her face when she saw it was worth every slip of the screwdriver.

To when Teletubbies were the rage and we got C the purple one.  (After all this time, still not sure of the names on them even after 17 years.)

To the joy that T display’s every time we get him a book for Christmas.  The kid loves to read.

During the early years, E spent the holiday with her mom so we often did Christmas in the summer when she came to visit.

David’s joy has always been any electronic gizmo that lights up and makes noise.  The joy that was reflected on his face when he would score a coup and steal the gizmo that one of his siblings received was both maddening and joyful.  Does that make sense?

Even with the differences in our family, the personality conflicts, the constant verbal abuse and terror visited by David upon his siblings, they are still loving toward him.  Asking how he is doing.  Worrying about what his behaviors are doing to him and those who care for him.

I guess that what I am saying is, if we embrace that which makes each of us different, greet each other with more compassion, and use kind words instead of hatred the world would be a better place.  Wouldn’t it?  We can forgive the many harsh things that David has done to our family.  Forgiving isn’t forgetting.

As kids enter dream land, wondering what Santa will bring, I ask each of you to consider one thing.

How can you make a difference in the life of another human being?  You don’t have to give money.  It could be something simple such as paying for the meal that someone is enjoying.  Give a cup of coffee to the person behind you in line.  Share a couple of dollars with a charity.

I have lofty goals of my own for the new year.  As we get closer to that time, I will share them with you.  Above all else, it takes a team to make a difference.  In the lives of children with mental illness, less focus is given than we ought to give.  The state of mental health services for children is a travesty in many parts of our world.  How can I affect change?  How can you affect change?

As I close this letter, know that in our world, there exists unmeasurable amounts of compassion.  We just need to ensure that everyone has the opportunity to experience that compassion.  To the staff that have worked with David and our family in the past, those who are working with him now, and those we have yet to meet, may you have a blessed Christmas.  No that we appreciate everything that you are trying to do for our family, and most especially David.

My appeal.  Yes, I have an appeal.  Show compassion for your fellow man.  Whether or not people celebrate Christmas, it is still Christmas everywhere.

I leave you with this video.  I didn’t create it, I don’t know the creator, but am struck by the message that is delivered.  Are there homeless people who take advantage?  Yes, I am sure that there are.   But, what if….

Merry Christmas

Carl Young

Off Close Watch

David is off close watch. They moved him off the lower level of the residence, and to the main floor.  This allows them to keep a closer eye on him. I miss the little guy. I advised staff that we need to ensure that we are looking at his meds.  While not a cure, they… Continue Reading

At a loss, with tears rolling.

Dad’s are supposed to be able to fix things. I can’t fix this. I can’t undo the damage caused by a selfish woman who did not think of her unborn child when she proceeded to get herself loaded up on drugs. Continue Reading

The first pass of this trip.

David has been on a plan.  This relates to behaviors they display in the residence hall.  As a result he was at risk of losing part of his pass / visit with me. I am not complaining.  My reality is that if he is exhibiting behaviors, and I am in town, then he loses pass… Continue Reading

the good stuff

Dear readers, as many of you know through the writings here, David has been in residential placement.  He is on his third major placement and like 10th or 11th minor placement.  Major is facilities where he has stayed for more than 30 days, and minor are all of the others. This past week was a… Continue Reading

the greatest treasure

David turned thirteen years old last Tuesday.  On July 28th, will be 11 years since his adoption was finalized.  How quickly the time goes. For David’s birthday, we went out to the facility he lives in to visit him.  Most of the family went.  We arrived late Monday, spent Tuesday, Wednesday and part of Thursday… Continue Reading

a coming birthday

So David has a birthday coming up.  he will be a teen. In my quest to get Medicaid reinstated, he was given something called a recipient liability. He has a recipient liability because he has an income.  (SSI and an adoption subsidy).  it isn’t more than 900 a month, and the subsidy isn’t his.   anyway. … Continue Reading

a setup for failure?

There hasn’t been much to report in regards to David.  He has been doing well, and by all reports is working his program.  Yesterday we had an IEP for him in the morning, and then his monthly treatment plan meeting in the afternoon.  At the second meeting, David indicated that he had reached the next… Continue Reading

Mark 1:11

I would say this applies to each of my kids.  But David, has needs beyond what our other kids do. Reports for David have been great thus far at the new facility.  Does this mean that he is cured? No. Do I expect a cure? No. What I expect is for professionals to work with… Continue Reading

monthly staffing report – Good Stuff

Today we had our monthly update conference call for David. When he left his previous placement he was struggling with some subjects.  Not sure if the standards are different in the new facility, but they report that he has a C average in all of his classes. He is not doing remedial work.  He is… Continue Reading