Tag Archives: OCD

Less than 24 hours and a wake up

Less than 24 hours and a wake up from now, barring some intervention, David will be home.

He will come home from a supported environment where he has constant supervision, consistent support, and success in school, to home.

Home where we can’t recreate the level of support he has now.

  If something happens to me or someone in the family, remind the people at the facility and at the state, that I warned them that something would happen.

Where we will live on edge waiting for him to fall apart mentally.

We are appealing the denials, but all of that takes time.  The Developmental Disabilities denial, the supported living staff denial, and general disregard for the welfare of not just the family, but of David.  I am preparing a complaint with the ethics board that governs psychologists because of their unauthorized testing of David.

I don’t understand how a facility that claims to be helping children, can be so emboldened as to deny ongoing care.

David understands that he may go to a therapeutic foster home if we can get one approved.  He also understands that there is a limited chance he will get extended again at the facility.

I have made arrangements for him to be transported to school.  The day school he will attend is 58 miles from home.  Our local district will provide transportation.

At this point, I have done everything I know how to do.  I have spoken with those I can speak with and who will listen.  However, the ones who are in control at this point, are also the ones who have dug their heals in so tightly that they are no longer helping the situation.

I look forward to completing their survey, because honestly,, I can find nothing “trauma informed” about their care of our son.

Please, if you are of a mind to, please pray for David.  Share this post far and wide.

If something happens to me or someone in the family, remind the people at the facility and at the state, that I warned them that something would happen.

The truth about David.

We visited David tonight.  He wants to come home.  As much as we want him to come home, home isn’t the best place for him. It isn’t just the Reactive Attachment Disorder. It isn’t just the Autism. It isn’t just the Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder. It isn’t just the Obsessive Compulsive Disorder. It isn’t just… Continue Reading

an update. close watch again

David is on close watch again.  He is under the belief that no matter what he does there, he is going to be moved to another facility. But that is not entirely why he is on close watch.  He is on close watch because: he climbed to the top of his closet and hid there.… Continue Reading

Home sweet home, again.

1176 miles. From home, to the residential facility and back again.  4 days. The thing about driving.  It gives a person a lot of time to think.  Ruminations about fatherhood, about things that a person might have done differently for David. I keep coming back to one inalienable truth. We did what we had to do.  Not… Continue Reading

My pain today

My pain tonight comes not from my body, road weary and tired of travel.   It doesn’t come from the connective tissue illness with which I have long lived. It comes from saying good bye to David. From leaving him behind in a far off place to be cared for by others. My heart knows… Continue Reading

The Elusive, Manipulative Adopted Child – Tina Traster – The Atlantic

I link to this article because I think that it is worth reading.  It might help my readers understand that we aren’t alone in dealing with the behaviors brought on by Reactive Attachment Disorder. We need to start a conversation on a National, and International level about this.  In my opinion, there will be more… Continue Reading

a setup for failure?

There hasn’t been much to report in regards to David.  He has been doing well, and by all reports is working his program.  Yesterday we had an IEP for him in the morning, and then his monthly treatment plan meeting in the afternoon.  At the second meeting, David indicated that he had reached the next… Continue Reading

Mark 1:11

I would say this applies to each of my kids.  But David, has needs beyond what our other kids do. Reports for David have been great thus far at the new facility.  Does this mean that he is cured? No. Do I expect a cure? No. What I expect is for professionals to work with… Continue Reading

monthly staffing report – Good Stuff

Today we had our monthly update conference call for David. When he left his previous placement he was struggling with some subjects.  Not sure if the standards are different in the new facility, but they report that he has a C average in all of his classes. He is not doing remedial work.  He is… Continue Reading