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Adoption – Misapplication of the Paintbrush


It can be a trigger for negative behavior.

Here is a hint.  – Not everyone who is adopted is like my son David.

Adoption Barnstar
Adoption Barnstar (Photo credit: Wikipedia)


Not everyone who is adopted has mental health issues.

Just because someone is adopted, doesn’t automatically require them to seek psychiatric help.

Labeling people for any reason is just not good practice.

How would you like it if those who are adopted said that every school administrator was in need of a psychiatric evaluation just because they are a school administrator?

You know?  if every parent whispers conspiratorially with other parents “they are a school principal and need to be evaluated for mental defect.”

I bet school administrators would get defensive quickly.

Why should it be any different for parents to get defensive when an administrator uses the fact that a child is adopted as a reason to seek psychiatric evaluations for that child?  I have no doubt that you have other reasons for determining that a child needs a mental health evaluation.  In fact, I applaud that you are looking out for the children in your care.

Professionals need to be above board in their handling of any situation with a person who they suspect has a mental health issue.   This is especially true in instances that occur in the academic community.

Kids are fragile and impressionable.

In addition, that kid you whispered about being adopted?  Maybe they don’t know that they are adopted…  What happens if you tell a child they are adopted when they have had no inclination of the notion that they are adopted?  Children are already struggling with identity issues simply by being children.  They are forging their personal identity and personality while in your care, in some cases, these things are fragile already. How does outing them as adopted help their search for identity?

In cases where a child is obviously a different race, such as with our son David, the child could be aware that they are adopted.  However, the decision to out the child as adopted isn’t yours to make as an administrator.  Is it?

As a school administrator, you should be held to a higher standard.

You and your teachers spend a significant amount of time in the lives of the children entrusted to your care.  They deserve to be treated with dignity.  Regardless of the makeup of their family, it is your job to ensure that they are treated with dignity.  You would expect no less for yourself.  Would you?

Adoption, by itself, is no reason for a mental health evaluation.  I know a number of people who are adopted, including myself, who are adopted.  Do we all need mental health evaluations?

By your logic, because we are adopted, we need one.

Mr School Van Driver

Good morning my friends.  Hope this note finds you well. Yesterday was an excellent day. This morning, David was in full on mode.  Jumping from topic to topic so quickly that we couldn’t keep up.  In the course of 30 minutes, I bet he talked about 50 different things.  When he is like this there… Continue Reading

Update: Some interesting things to note

To the people he rides to and from school with every day. David is not allowed technology.  He is not allowed technology because he has threatened to kill people via said technology.  When you hand him your phone, ipod, technology, you are opening yourself up to problems with law enforcement because of the risk that… Continue Reading

an update about our favorite special ed teacher

Our favorite teacher, you may remember her, I wrote about her vendetta against my wife a year ago last Spring.  She doesn’t think that David should be allowed out in public school.  And made mention of the fact that he ruined her child’s first grade education…  yeah.  Her post is here. At any rate, this… Continue Reading

First Day of School Anxiety – 7 Tips for Parents

So my son has anxiety about the first day of school.  This year is worse than normal because his resource teacher didn’t come back.  So we have to “break in” a new teacher.  I think that he will do well, it is just going to take time for him to adjust. Their are key points… Continue Reading

disappointed in service levels

I sleep during the day, because I stay up all night long with my son. This morning, just as I was getting into a good sleep, I received a call from the facility where David will eventually be a resident.  They need a list of hospital stays for him going back two years. Evidently it… Continue Reading

My Dad Says

My Dad Says I picked David up from school today.  Was told that the “My Dad Says” comments need to end.  The school has rules that he has to follow regardless of what Dad says. Wait a minute… What? My Dad Says Evidently when David doesn’t want to do something or is trying to get… Continue Reading

what are you here for then?

a conversation with David… “You can’t access the Internet using the Wii David, you know that.” – Dad “I am not accessing the Internet, I am looking at games and reading wimpy kids books online.” – David “Unless it’s educational, it’s not allowed David.” – Dad He turns off the Wii, and goes stomping off. … Continue Reading

long night and early morning

Well, I was up until almost 3am with David.  then he woke up at 4.  for the day.  it is now 7am. He is very hyper today.  Sent a note about it to the school.  Good luck to them.  That sounds harsh I know. He just left for school.  I am going back to bed.… Continue Reading